The Personal Cost of Allyship and Ethics

What is not often mentioned is that allyship often entails sacrifice

Simone Samuels
3 min readJan 31, 2021

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I’m realizing that to be an effective ally, you have to be willing to make a sacrifice on behalf of the people you are siding with. And sometimes — that’s hard.

At the risk of sharing a story that doesn’t put me in the best light, here goes:

I remember sitting in an NYC cab on my way to a conference. I had chosen to fly in the morning of the conference to save on staying in a hotel the night before (because NYC hotels be expensive — especially in Manhattan). I was already gonna be an hour late, not even factoring in morning traffic from LaGuardia to the pier.

I soon discovered that my taxi driver was racist. But it wasn’t towards Blacks. When he drove through Chinatown I asked if there were any cool restaurants here that he’d recommend. He said that the whole section of town was just “garbage”. I later found out he was a Trump supporter (surprise). I spoke very little during the whole ride. I did nothing. I said nothing.

Why? Because I was running late. Because I paid good money for this conference. Because I was uncomfortable. Because I was by myself in the backseat of a car with a man I didn’t know. Because I didn’t know what to do. Because I was a foreign…

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Simone Samuels

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